Reflections 9/25/11


September is a season of transition and change, as our lives return to a more rapid pace after the slowness of the summer. We are definitely in a season of transition and change at First Parish, with Russ’ arrival and Sadie’s leaving being two obvious examples. These times are naturally stressful as we can no longer work on “auto-pilot.” We have to pay attention to what we are doing and saying, both in helping new people understand what is going on and seeing what we need to cover when a professional leader moves on. We can’t take things for granted. Naturally, the first reaction is to make it stop being more complicated, to rush to fill the holes. But a time of transition and change is also a time of opportunity and discernment. It offers us a chance to pay attention to how what we have been doing contributes or detracts from what we want or need. It offers us an opportunity to name and even challenge unspoken assumptions and learn better what is required for us to live out this aspect of congregational life well. It offers us the opportunity to dream, to envision, to imagine. The key, to quote congregational systems guru Murray Bowen, “Don’t just do something Stand there.”

I have talked with members of the RE Council, the Standing Committee and the Human Resources Committee, with Jill and Sadie, and with Clara Barton District staff. From these conversations, we are developing a process that will give us time to say good-bye to Sadie well, and also the time to discern the gifts and needs of our religious education program, and therefore to clarify together what we feel we need in professional leadership in RE.

First and foremost, we need to honor Sadie, and her work and ministry with us. Sadie has been with us for 8 years and we love her. Her leaving brings with it a time of loss but also celebration. She and we built a solid religious education program for our children and youth, and we have much to celebrate in our shared accomplishments. We are taking time while Sadie is still with us to reflect on these accomplishments and our work together. We will close this time with a special intergenerational service and social hour on October 2nd, Sadie’s last day.

Then, the religious education and congregational leadership, with input from the congregation, needs to look at where we are and imagine where we want to be. This will be a time for discernment. Discernment is a kind of deep listening where we ask powerful questions about what really matters. In this case, our leadership will be asking and imagining how to bring our Unitarian Universalist faith to life and into practice for our children, youth, and adults. To be a deliberate and inclusive conversation, it will take time. The goal is to make sure we know what we have and what we need, so we can articulate to the next Director of Religious Education our expectations and ideas. We have a much better chance of success if we are clear. Then we can put together a search committee who will be searching for the next religious professional who can bring their own gifts and skills. The search committee will interview and recommend to the Standing Committee, who will then vote to accept the hire. In all of this, time is an ally, not an enemy. If we do follow this plan, it will probably be next fall before we hire a new Director of Religious Education.

So, what happens in the meantime, in the transition? Sadie leaves us with a strong religious education program and well-trained and committed volunteers. The Religious Education Council, having experienced and learned from Sadie’s maternity leave last year, feels they can run the Sunday morning program for this year, using curricula that was successful in the past, and simplifying some of the more complex projects, like the pageant. We will run the “Our Whole Lives” sexuality education course, but only for our own eighth grade youth, and not with two other churches as originally planned. The “Coming of Age” program will run as usual, led by Tom Coffey, Bryan Grad, and myself. The Standing Committee voted to increase the hours of the Religious Education Administrative Assistant, Jill Hayes, to 15 to 20 hours. She will take on some of the administrative tasks that Sadie handled, and will work with me and RE Council to coordinate things like the chapel services and the For All Ages. Jill can be a resource for new families coming in to our Religious Education program. Confidential issues and concerns related to the RE program can come to me.

We will have professional support and advice in our discernment process. Karen Bellavance-Grace, the District Consultant for Faith Formation will, well, consult with me, Jill, and representatives from the RE Council, the Standing Committee, and the Human Resources to help better define our process and to figure out what conversations we need to have. Karen served as a DRE for a few years in New Hampshire and then eight years as the assistant to the mayor of Northampton. I was on her interview team, so I have met her and am very impressed with her thoughtfulness, competence and composure.

If you have any questions or thoughts, please feel free to contact me.


Reflections 9/11/11

Reflection on the Tenth Anniversary of September 11, 2001
The Reverend Ellen Rowse Spero
First Parish Unitarian Universalist of Chelmsford, MA
September 11, 2011

Reading: from 1 Kings 19

11 And he said, Go forth, and stand upon the mount before the LORD. And, behold, the LORD passed by, and a great and strong wind rent the mountains, and brake in pieces the rocks before the LORD; but the LORD was not in the wind: and after the wind an earthquake; but the LORD was not in the earthquake: 12 And after the earthquake a fire; but the LORD was not in the fire: and after the fire a still small voice.


Anniversaries are evocative. I have certainly thought about the events of September 11, 2001 in the intervening ten years. But certainly with time, the intensity around the feelings and images have dissipated: the horror, the sadness, the anger, the fear, even some guilt, receding as life returned to normal.

After all, a lot of things have happened in 10 years. I often measure time in terms of my children and my oldest, now 15, was only 5. His memories are vague about the horrors of that day. My youngest, 8 years old, was not even born. A whole generation is now in school for whom the events of 9/11 are history rather than lived. This event, so much part of our national consciousness, is not part of theirs in the same way.

Other things that have happened in our country and around the world on a much grander scale: a whole new leadership of this country, involvement in 2 wars, a period of economic hardship, and the death of Osama bin Laden––the man who masterminded these terrorist attacks. The consequences of that day continue to be with us. We take off our shoes, put up with body and luggage searches, as we are herded through the airport. Now we have family emergency preparedness plans, and lockdown practices in our schools and other things that we may not have thought about before.

Today, though, I want to focus on remembering. For this anniversary has been evocative for me, haunting images, buried deep in my psyche, have risen up with an unexpected power. The day itself: glorious in its fall crispness and clear blue sky. The wondering with an increasing horror as each plane hit, when it would end. Images of people jumping from the burning towers, and the stories of people joining hands to jump together, a sign to me that even in the most horrifying moment, love could be stronger than fear. I remember the e-mails from my colleagues describing the day in Washington DC and seeing the name of one of the parishioners from my internship church on the Pentagon’s fatality list: Army Specialist Craig Amundson. I could see in my minds eye the path of the plane hitting the Pentagon. Josh worked there for 14 years, Sam had gone to the daycare center there, and I had driven that route past the Pentagon, over 395 from Virginia to Washington on a regular basis for five years. I remember watching with Sam his video about firefighter Scott telling kids how to stop drop and roll and showing them in the shiny fire trucks off to rescue, and I had tears rolling down my face. It broke my heart to watch that video, to know what happened in New York City when all of those police and firefighters and EMTs ran in to do what they do and so many were lost. I remember in the days after how quiet the skies were without airplanes. I remember fans in Fenway Park, holding up signs, “God Bless the Yankees” and I cried again. And I remember loving my country with fierceness I had not experienced before: not a rah-rah patriotic bluster, but with the sense of shared grief and love that these are my people and we are hurting all at the same time, and yet, that we are also resilient, and what a beautiful land this is and how lucky I am to be here. And I remember the words that came to my mind that became my prayer the image the prophet Elijah, standing on the edge of the world through a terrible wind, an earth shattering crash and that horrible fire. That was that day. And yet beneath it all, as the story goes God was not in any of these things, even if that’s what the hijackers wanted to believe. God was not in any of those things. For underneath it all, the horror and the noise and the intensity terror and the incredible, incredible loss was the still small voice, more powerful than the wind or the earthquake or the fire. Its power was not in its destructiveness but in its requirement that we work to listen for it, for it is always there, and not even these terrible things could drown it out.

Archibald McLeish writes in his poem “The Young, Dead Soldiers”: “They say: we leave you our deaths. Give them their meaning.” I do not believe that anyone died on 9/11 for any good purpose or as part of some larger plan or some divine retribution. I do not believe that God wanted these deaths, anymore than I believe God wants any other violent deaths anywhere, and mourns whenever they happen. While I believe there is such thing as evil, I see it as a very human thing, the capacity for which is in each of us. The death of nearly 3,000 people and the wounds of body and spirit to thousands more, and the loss of family, lovers, friends, neighbors, colleagues to even many thousands more transcends any political messages about What This Day Means or How We Are Stronger. The loss and grief around all these names is too real for that. Looking through the fifty pages of names, we see that the lives lost transcend race, they transcend ethnicity, they transcend religion, they transcend gender and sexual orientation, because ultimately we are a country that makes that claim, whether in grief or celebration.

I am religious leader, and so, I make meaning from my faith, even in the face of death. As a Unitarian Universalist, and much more Universalist than anything, I do believe in a couple of things that require me to respond and reflect on this day, to give meaning. I do believe that every one of us is a beloved child of God, that God loves each and every one of us. This does not mean that I think we are each required to love or understand the hijackers and Osama bin Laden. Nor those who attacked American Muslims in retaliation for simply being who they are. I can understand why that may be beyond the capacity of many of us. It simply means to me that thank God, God is there to love us all because we can’t do it ourselves. Our capacity to love one another is not yet there in some terrible, terrible ways. And yet it is in so many other ways, it is there, it was there ten years ago—that still, small voice in the face of terror and horror and destruction: not only in the jumpers holding hands but in the moments when strangers reached out to others to walk them, carry them, urge them to safety. In the cell phone calls to loved ones to say goodbye. In the courage of the passengers on Flight 93 who made sure their plane crashed where it could do the least harm. In all of the acts of kindness and mourning and grief that followed, the gentleness with which we treated one another for awhile. “We leave you our deaths give them their meaning”: know the names, remember the individuals who died but also those who survived with wounds of body and spirit, and those who are left behind to live their lives in 9/11’s huge shadow.

I also believe that in the end the power, the spirit of love is greater than the power of fear and of terror of revenge and hate. That is my song, that is what the still small voice tells me that beneath all of it. And I trust that voice more than the wind and the earthquake and the fire. Not that those didn’t happen and they’re not real. They were so real and I have the  pages of names to prove it, as a testimony to the power of hate and fear and horror. But being a person of faith means holding the paradoxes of conflicting truths. Here, the paradox is that even with all of this terror and destruction, God or the power of love, the Spirit of Life or the Human Spirit is greater and that it transcends time and death. And whether we like it or not, life goes on. And that requires of us bearing witness and remembering. The holding of one another in our grief and at the same time an affirmation that despite what the hijackers believed that each and everyone of these people matter, and that this life matters, and that nothing can take that away.

On the walls of the Holocaust Museum is a quotation from the Torah: “This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses…that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children and your children’s children may live.” Rebecca Ann Parker, a Unitarian Universalist professor and theologian, writes very much the same thing: “Your gifts—whatever you discover them to be— can be used to bless or curse the world. The mind’s power, The strength of the hands, The reaches of the heart, The gift of speaking, listening, imagining, seeing, waiting. Any of these can serve to feed the hungry, Bind up wounds, Welcome the stranger, Praise what is sacred, Do the work of justice Or offer love.
Any of these can draw down the prison door, Hoard bread, Abandon the poor, Obscure what is holy, Comply with injustice Or withhold love.
You must answer this question: What will you do with your gifts?
Choose to bless the world.
None of us alone can save the world. Together—that is another possibility waiting.”

Our faith teaches us to choose to blessing: to choose gratitude and hospitality, to choose to love deeply and fiercely this world and this life, both as they are, even as we work toward what we imagine they can be. So I offer that comfort and that challenge on this 10th anniversary of a terrible day in our country’s history. “They say: ‘Whether our lives and our deaths were for peace and hope or for nothing, we cannot say; it is you who must say this.’” (Archibald MacLeish). And so I say, let us listen and trust the still small voice, which calls us to choose life, to choose to bless the world.

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