Reflections 2/5/12


Last month, I attended a “service of leave-taking” for my colleague, the Reverend Tom Barrington, at All Saints Episcopal Church. The bishop delivering the sermon told a light bulb joke: “How many Episcopalians does it take to change a light bulb? Change the light bulb? My grandmother bought that light bulb!” That is when I realized that we Unitarian Universalists are not alone. Of course, in our version of the joke, we have to form a committee to study whether or not to change the light bulb. There is a version for every denomination and faith, it seems. But one thing all religious communities seem to share is a reluctance to change: whether a light bulb or something else.

When I returned to Unitarian Universalism after the college/young adult hiatus, I was taken aback by the changes: gone were the familiar blue and red hymnals replaced by a gray one with many of familiar tunes but words changed here and there. While I understood the reason: to be more inclusive and reflective of our diversity, I missed the poetry and the familiarity. While I didn’t mind giving up “Lord of all” in For the Beauty of the Earth, “Source of all” seemed somehow vague and academic. (I went with the UCC on this one, and generally sing “God of all” as a compromise position, for myself at least.) The other big change for me was this thing called a chalice that had somehow become a symbol of Unitarian Universalism when I wasn’t looking. This was really hard, because I was not used to symbols in my UU faith. I guess that was part of the Puritan heritage that stuck. It took me awhile to get used to the whole idea. Now, I love that we have something that binds our congregations and our faith together. I love the story of how it came to be our symbol. It started with Jan Hus, a Czech priest in the 1500’s, who was burned as a heretic for serving communion wine to all. His story and the image of a flaming chalice became a symbol of strength and courage for the Czech people. When the Unitarian Service Committee, hundreds of years later, came to Czechoslovakia during World War II to help refugees escape, they needed a symbol to let people know they could be trusted. And so, the Reverend Charles Joy, head of the Service Committee, asked Hans Deutsch, an artist and former refugee, to create one. Deutsch was inspired by the Czech symbol and created one for the Service Committee. The rest, as they say, is history.

When I first arrived, I was rather startled to find out that the source of the flame for our chalice was an open can of sterno. While it made for a lovely flame, the thought of it spilling over frankly scared the heck out of me. It took awhile but we found a compromise between the sterno and a candle with a lovely little oil lamp, bought by Edith Murphy. Soon after, people began asking about the possibility of a new chalice. It was brought to the Worship Committee who discussed it at length. The chalice did look a bit beat up and listing more each year. We asked around about its history. Jane Drury told us that it has been purchased by the Reverend Arthur Hover to replace one taken by a previous minister. Don Hayes gave a wonderful history of the chalice a couple of years ago, and talked about how he appreciated its slightly off-kilterdness. While there is affection for this chalice, there did not seem to be any compelling connection that would require us to keep it. We could risk the change.

Of course, for a variety of reasons, it took YEARS and several generations of Worship Committee meeting agendas to make this a reality, as this is much more than a light bulb. Last spring, the Worship Committee asked those of us going to General Assembly to scout out chalices while we were there. We were sadly disappointed to find nothing that struck a chord. Finally, at the January Worship Committee meeting, we went modern and got on-line and looked at various UU websites. And suddenly, there it was: a chalice we all loved. So, all this is to say: PREPARE FOR CHANGE--we have a new chalice that the Worship Committee would like to give to the congregation. Because it is sacred, because it is a symbol of our faith, we want to do something that will honor both the old and the new chalice. So, we will unveil it at the February 19th service, where we will pass the flame from the old one. Meanwhile, the new chalice is living in my office if you need a preview. Many thanks to the Worship Committee for making this happen and sticking with it.

And for all you mourning the Pats’ loss, remember that pitchers and catchers report in less than two weeks!

-Rev. Ellen

Reflections 1/1/12


While it is a new calendar year, it is almost half way through the church year. We had a very full first half: major work on the steeple, the resignation of our Director of Religious Education, Sadie Kahn-Greene, and the arrival of our intern, Russ Menk. All this in addition to the normal church activities and events. The Thanksgiving-Christmas season is always special to me with its music, pageantry, and candlelight. It is a thoughtful, gratitude-filled time, both solemn and joyful. But now, we return to “ordinary” time.

Mid-year is a good time to see where we are, to evaluate and perhaps reset our expectations. The steeple work is coming along, but taking longer than originally proposed. Please remember to be careful around the kitchen and front entrances, when the steeplejacks are working.

Progress continues in the search for a new DRE. More information on this can be found elsewhere in the newsletter. But I want to take a moment to honor and thank the work of the Religious Education Council, the RE Youth Council, all the RE volunteers, teachers, and children and youth, and Jill Hayes. You all have done a wonderful job keeping our religious education program spiritually vital.

Russ has brought us his many gifts and new perspective. He is now entering the second and final half of his internship with us. I appreciate how seriously you have taken your role as a teaching congregation. You have much to teach about ministry—not just to Russ but to me.

A quick note: I will begin a religious education class on Jesus, beginning this Sunday, January 8th, after church at 12:15. Our first meeting will be in the chapel. This class is open to adults, youth, college age, anyone who wants to learn more about Jesus, how he is portrayed in the Bible, and who he can be for us as Unitarian Universalists. This class is running in parallel to the Sunday School doing the “Market Place 29 AD”, which examines life in the time of Jesus.

I received the following journal reflection from Heron Dance. Rather than focusing on resolutions, or making commitments we rarely can keep (or at least I can’t seem to—whether it is to lose 10 pounds or keep my office clean), it invites us to consider what we have learned over the past year that we might bring out in the new. I offer it here:

“I think back over the year past. What worked? What didn’t? 

Big plans didn’t work. Small ones did. Going inside worked: seeking the silence.

Expectations of others—having high expectations of others, of myself, didn’t work. Getting emotional didn’t work. I was sometimes successful hiding it, but anger seemed to well up inside me when I encountered uncomfortable truths about myself, my life. Catering to my desires didn’t work. I did some chasing of illusions. 

Doing before thinking didn’t work out very well.

Acceptance worked. Avoiding confrontation, seeking peace worked. Simplicity worked.

Love worked. Anger didn’t. Patience worked. Focusing on the basic structure of my life produced better results than reacting to this or that circumstance. Changing the structure rather than funneling the energy into disputes worked. 

Once again, the deepest, most profound moments of the year were in wild nature, especially paddling a river.”

Happy New Year! -Rev. Ellen

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