Reflections Sabbatical 2016

First, I would like to offer my gratitude and appreciation to this congregation for encouraging and supporting me in taking a sabbatical, my second one. Since I first started serving as your minister in August of 2002, I have been working with the Reverend Dr. Larry Peers as my clergy coach. His constant question to me is “What season of ministry are you and your congregation in?” Over the years, I have walked with you to plant new ideas, new ministries, and a new covenant; to tend to the growth and health within our congregation and to the ministries and programs already planted; to gather in and celebrate the fruit that has been brought forth. And I have stepped back, to rest and renew before beginning again. While we are doing all of these things all the time, usually one season or the other predominates. Sabbatical is a time for this fourth season—of stepping back, of rest and renewal, so you and I can come back to this ministry with new energy and new eyes, perhaps to plant something new, perhaps with a better idea of what needs attention and nurture, or a clearer vision of what fruits and gifts we have gathered and can celebrate. 

I will be on sabbatical from January 1 through March 31st, 2016. During that time, I will be resting, and catching up with family and friends. I will be renewing—taking time to do the reading, writing, and imagining of ministry that I do not often have time to engage in during the day-to-day busyness of church. I will also prepare the soil for what I believe is next. I will be taking a three-day seminar on “Intercultural Competence”, developing the skills to help us engage in conversations and ministry in a multicultural world. I hope to attend a retreat series through the Center for Courage and Renewal entitled, “The Courage to Lead: Living and Leading from Within.” It actually begins before and continues during and after my sabbatical time, but I hope to use the sabbatical to really process what I am learning and discern how to bring it back both to my ministry and the ministries and leadership of the congregation.

 Ministry is a sacred trust, a trust that I take very seriously. It is an honor and a privilege to be called to serve as your minister, to be entrusted with all the ways you share your individual and congregational struggles and hopes, losses and celebrations. Part of deepening this trust is taking the time and the risk to grow. I thank you for giving me the time to do this. And I have full confidence in you to benefit from the fruit of what you tended so well, your care for one another and this church as a whole. 

I look forward to seeing you in worship on April 3rd, 2016!

In Faith,

 Rev Ellen Spero

Reflections November 2015

I spent three days last week in Sewannee, Tennessee, at the first of five retreats in a series called, “The Courage to Lead: Living and Leading From Within.” It is offered through the Center for Courage and Renewal, which was founded by the Quaker teacher and author, Parker Palmer. This retreat series, scheduled over the next year, is one of the centerpieces for my upcoming sabbatical, which begins January 1st, and runs through March 31st. Over the last year, I have been working with the Sabbatical Committee, the Worship Committee, the Pastoral Care Team, and the staff to ensure that worship and pastoral care will be covered while I am away. This is my second sabbatical at First Parish, so we have done this together before. It went well last time and I imagine it will go well this time. I am very grateful to the congregation that you give me this time and space to rest and renew, to live into my call in a different way for a time, and then invite me back at the end of the time to resume my ministry with you, open to what we have all learned in the sabbatical time. I will be preaching this month about sabbatical, its purpose and what I will be doing this time and what I hope to bring back to you.

While at this retreat, I was reminded of some simple practices that nurture and sustain open and respectful communication and conversation. They are similar to ones I learned at the workshop series I attended at the Louis D. Brown Peace Institute last year. As we prepare to vote on whether to approve a capital campaign in order to upgrade our building’s handicap accessibility, I offer these practices as a way to ground our discussions and communications. 1) Assume good intentions. Remember that each of us cares about this community and is speaking from what matters to each of us about First Parish. That is our common ground. 2) Speak your truth in ways that respect other people’s truth. Speak for yourself. 3) It is okay to disagree. It is not okay to blame, attack or shame ourselves or others. 4) When the going gets rough, turn to curiosity. 5) Practice both/and thinking; avoid “but...” 6) Believe it is possible to emerge refreshed, surprised, and less burdened than we came in; and that the seeds planted here can keep growing in the days ahead.

Talking about change raises both anxiety and excitement: anxiety at what might be lost and excitement about what could be possible. We encountered this when we went through the Welcoming Congregation process. One question which arose over and over again then was “why are we focusing on one group of people? Shouldn’t we be welcoming to everyone?” The response was yes, our intent is to be welcoming to all souls. At the same time, we need to be aware of what that means to people who have been either underserved or made unwelcome by religious communities, who have been told that their spiritual lives do not matter. At that time, in the life of our community, it was important for us to focus on how to be truly welcoming to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer individuals and families. This ministry is ongoing, as the Welcoming Congregation Committee can attest, as they prepare to sponsor “Transgender 101” workshop on November 14th. The Welcoming Congregation process provided us the framework for committing to this intentional welcome and to make it part of our everyday hospitality.

Talking about our building’s accessibility and welcome to people of different physical abilities and limitations is an example of how we are continuing our conversation of what it means to be a welcoming to everyone One of the responsibilities in congregational polity is to discuss and discern as a congregation where we need to put our resources of time, talent and treasure now. I am less concerned with the actual decision we make than that we have talked about it and come to an intentional, thoughtful decision as a Unitarian Universalist community, grounding it in our values and covenants. There are always competing commitments. We can’t do everything all at once for everyone all the time. Is now the time to improve our building’s accessibility by committing to a capital campaign? If the congregation decides yes, then we can talk together about the whats and hows of what is possible, given our resources of time, talent, and treasure, and the impact on other areas of our congregational life. If the congregation decides no, then we need to articulate what other competing commitments require our attention now and how else we can offer our welcome to all souls, including those with different physical abilities and limitations.

This decision presents different challenges than the Welcoming Congregation process. Questions of welcome and stewardship involving money carry concrete realities and consequences for both individuals and the congregation as a whole. For this reason, I am in conversation with the New England UUA Regional Staff about coming to help our lay leaders talk about money across committees and with the congregation as a whole. No matter our congregational decision about a capital campaign, learning to become more open and skilled at talking about our financial resources, limitations, and possibilities will serve us well in the future.

I would like to close with some appreciations: appreciation to the lay leaders who have stepped forward to educate, facilitate and guide us toward a decision; appreciation to all of you who participated, bringing your concerns and your commitments to the table; and finally to those who have already pledged to a possible capital campaign, at over $200,000, before we have even voted. Last night, as Justine and I were talking after the evening service, she quoted Julian of Norwich: “All will be well, all will be well, in all manner of things, all will be well.” And so it will.

In faith, Rev. Ellen 

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2 Westford St
Chelmsford MA 01824